Connecting

Describe one habit that brings you joy.

The topic was conversation and connection on Melissa Kirsch’s NYT The Morning. She called it Easy Listening. I felt the tug of  connection when her trip home took her past Worcester.

She kept going as you have to from Maine to New York.

There was more geography to recognize. Worcester, however, was where I spent four [plus] years. Formative, informing years I might add. It’s where I went to college. It’s where I learned how to grow up.

Melissa Kirsch’s rental car took me back to a kind of beginning.

To bring us back on topic, it’s the habit of reminiscing that brings me joy. 

I have a habit of taking another’s experience as a jumping off point to recall some of mine.

Makes me feel happy and, yes, connected.

Take me to the movies

What’s your go-to comfort food?

Popcorn is so comforting.

Is it because it’s remiscent of the movies? Maybe.

Although I haven’t had popcorn at the movies in 40 years.

In fact,  it’s been at least 10 years since I went to a movie house.

Popcorn is just a pleasant snack. It’s easy to pop in the mouth, one soft kernel at a time or by the handful.

The latter is messier, but still, popcorn is a neat after dinner treat.

Clean clothes?

If you were forced to wear one outfit over and over again, what would it be?

Except for having to organize either

  • a regular washing cycle
  • or,
  • many identical outfits

it’s not a bad idea, having a “signature look.”

I propose a two-tier approach based on season.

In the spring and summer, we’ll have a 6-month stint in pale clothes. Perhaps white jeans with a pastel shirt. I am partial to a light yellow blouse or perhaps just a simple red t-shirt.

Starting in the autumn, I chose a  pair of black slacks paired with perhaps that red t-shirt.

Thus, I am keeping close to the proposition. It’s one outfit with just a swap of the pants.

The red shirt would be my look,  singular and consistent.

Higher

What fears have you overcome and how?

There is a recommendation for fighting fear by leaning into it. Afraid of dogs, acquire a pit bull.

Fears tend to diminish who we are or who we can be.

My fear of heights had me cautiously approaching the railings of balconies.

Come to think of it, the rich fellow (Richard Gere) in Pretty Woman gets the penthouse suite “cause it’s the best.” He stays off that balcony til much later when it becomes necessary for winning the titular girl (Julia Roberts).

We do what we must.

No

Do you practice religion?

No, I don’t. I practice the precepts of the religious traditions that have evolved in the West.

Kindness. As best I can.

Respect. Understanding. Empathy.

I will walk a mile in your shoes. And quote the many wisdoms you may believe. I am not a believer. I do have faith in our better nature.

Something to believe in. And worth practicing.

More. Give me more.

What does “having it all” mean to you? Is it attainable?

There are times it’s hard to judge when we’ve had enough. For those of us battling bulges, this is often true around food. It also applies to just the complex and ordinary business of living.

“Having it all” is one of those insatiable goals of the greedy and ambitious. If you are like me a little lazy and indifferent, you probably don’t need to reach quite so high.

I’m ok, I can hear myself utter, I got some of it.

Easy, clean, and breezy

Write about your dream home.

One story with an open plan would be ideal.


Floorplan, open loft, insert cubicle


I prefer at least 1000 sq ft of space, open but with little compartments cordoned off.

Cubbies as rooms in imitation of office cubicles would give the illusion of privacy.

This is asking for the best of both studio or loft style and traditional floorplans.

Fly your freak flag

If you started a sports team, what would the colors and mascot be?

Which sport?

The colors, whatever game we play would have to be purple and brown. The mascot should be either a lynx or a giraffe. Granted, a purple and brown giraffe is one big strange animal.

It’s out of my league, I am sure.

BTW I learned today that a giraffe has very few vertebrae as it needs depth and thickness to keep that long neck upright.